“I love the different intensities and how soft the silicone is

D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

Zumio’s clitoral stimulator has patented SpiroTip™ rotation technology that lets you pinpoint your exact pleasure spots for the most satisfying orgasm imaginable. “The G-zone is simply an area of tissue that some people find pleasurable, while others don’t,” Corrado says. While the price is a tad dearer than other panty vibes out there, reviewers have said this “powerhouse” is well worth the extra dollars. “This toy hits all the right spots and to know someone else is in control is such a turn-on,” one five-star review reads. “I love the different intensities and how soft the silicone is,” a user commented. Reviewers have noted it’s the perfect toy for foreplay, beginners and those who enjoy a gentler touch.

“My wife and I have known about this wands for a long time, but I finally decided it was time we get one since she is highly dependant on clitoral stimulation to reach climax. Believe me when I say if you have a clitoris, you want one of these,” wrote one reviewer. I have never been into masturbation and self pleasure … After hearing from one of my female partners about a biird product, I decided to buy the Namii. The material and colour are amazing, it looks cute and fancy on my nightstand and its functionality is absolutely fantastic. I kid you not, it has given me orgasms as quickly as 10 seconds into using it,” one five-star reviewer wrote.

Available in silver and rose gold, the pendant can be switched on via a hidden button on its side and it touts surprisingly strong vibrations for its short profile. I had been messing around with the buttons for probably less than two minutes and didn’t get very far into exploring sensations when it was clear I was on the verge of an orgasm and just rolled with it. It was as close to almost instantaneous as I’ve ever gotten in my life. I’m still running into occasional issues with the buttons; I need to change how I grip it apparently, since I naturally hold it tighter as I get closer to climax.

These beginner-friendly sex toys are generally meant for clitoral stimulation, though some are meant for internal use, while others are meant for penises. Bring them on your next vacation for when you’re feeling adventurous in a place where no one knows you or keep things low-key by using them next time you’ve got a date night at home. When using your hands to masturbate, most people find using one or two fingers at a time to be the easiest starting place.

Unfortunately, I didn’t get to try Vesper 2 with my penis-wielding partner, but that’s fine. Every time I wore it, I was expressing my sexuality in a way that would have had me burned at the stake in 17th-century Salem. Because the Vesper 2 makes me feel the same way, it’s not something I even wanted to share with my partner. I wanted the discovery, the pleasure, and the orgasms to be on my terms with my brand-new vibrator necklace—a sentiment, I’m sure, some people will understand once they get their hands on Vesper 2. As you might expect, the sex toy company Fun Factory is known for toys that look (and are) fun.

As a sex educator who has also worked as a victim’s advocate, sex toys are something that my students often ask me about, so let’s jump right to the answer here. If you’re a beginner vibrators, go for a classic vaginal vibrator with a curved tip for easier G-spot stimulation. Ribbed designs, meanwhile, allow the raised ridges to pass over the G-spot , offering further stimulation.

Boasting over 5000 reviews and an average star rating of 4.7, this toy is a true crowd pleaser and for good reason. A small nitpick would be that the Tenga was a little tough to clean since the silicone around the egg puckers a bit. I found myself having to get in there with a Q-tip to ensure that everything was fully clean — although, I will admit I’m a little obsessive when it comes to toy cleanliness. The finger tether is removable, so you can slip it on and off, depending on how you use it. And even when the tether is off, the vibe stays put, thanks to a squishy finger notch that doesn’t vibrate your fingers numb.

The idea is that you can put it in between your labia so it has direct access to your clitoris, use its tiny arms to keep it there, then continue sans hands. For $105, it’s supposed to make that elusive penis-in-vagina orgasm more attainable without getting in the way of any actual sex-having. While she was having great partnered sex, many of her peers were not. She has since written two more books about sexual pleasure for older adults and has reviewed over 100 sex toys from the senior perspective.